一段对话引起的思考A thought form a dialogue

那天忆秋跟我在走廊里走。我们的走廊是一排红色格子一排蓝色格子。忆秋走的时候迈的步子很大,不踩蓝色格子,只踩红色格子。我问你为什么这么走?她说:“我和乔佳在做一个游戏,她只能踩蓝色格子,我只能踩红色格子。”我当时觉得她们好可爱,我问;“但是她现在看不到,你可以随便走。”她说;“不,她们已经约定好了。”

约定就是约定。小孩子都能如此坚守信用,做一个如此自律的人,深深被触动。我记得在我小学的时候,有一次我的一个同学让我在一个地方等她,她去去就回。后来我就一直在那里等她,10分钟,20分钟,40分钟,一个多小时之后她出现了,她好惊讶我还在那等她,她说她刚刚在家里都吃完饭了才想起我来,她当时感动到夸我真讲信用。从此我们成为了很要好的朋友,至今都是。

信任,在人与人之间的关系中是多么重要的联结因素。但越来越大的我们,却越来越难去相信一个人。我们生怕受到伤害,以至于我们很难再掏出心窝去真诚对待一个人,为他无回报的做任何事,我们首先想到的是自己。

再者,我想到的是,信任的前提是自律。慎独方能做到自律。即使一个人的时候,我们也要做到端正自己的行为。我想,美国人在这点上做的就比我们好,他们不会去贪社会的小便宜,会遵守诺言,会慎独,所以整个社会风气是人人都很谦让,很有礼貌,很文明。

One day, Autumn walked with me along the hallway. There are one red grid and blue grids on the hallway.Autumn took big steps when her walking, and she just tread on red grids but blue grids. I asked her why she walked like this ?She said:”Georgia and I are playing a game,  she can only tread on blue grids, and I can only tread on red grids.” I think they are so lovely, I asked:”But she can’t see now, you can walk as you like.” She said:”No, It’s a promise.”

Promise is a promise. Little children can also stick on their words, they behave themselves, and I am deeply moved. I remembered when I was in primary school, my classmate let me waiting for her at some place, she came back later. Then I waited her for 10 min, 20min, 40min, then she appeared after 1 hour, she was so shocked that I still wait for her. She just forgot me. She was really moved by my keeping the promise. From then on, we became very good friends, it really is.

Trust, which is a very important factor to connect the relationship with each other. But actually, we increasingly become more difficult to trust others when we turn older. We are afraid that we may get hurt, so that we are less likely to treat others with sincerity, or do anything for others without returning, we first think about ourselves.

What’s more, the base of trust is self-discipline. And the base of self-discipline is Shendu which spirit of the Subject-introverted Mind in the Confucian Philosophy. If everyone can keep the promises, behave themselves,shendu,  the society will be like more self-effacing, more polite,and more civilized.

Miss Zhu

 

 

 

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